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Patterns. Everything in the Universe consists of some type of sequence or pattern: the seashell you find on the beach, the veins on the leaf in the forest, and even the colorful design on a peacock’s tail. Everything has a pattern to it.

There is an order to nature which goes far deeper than we are consciously aware of and affects us on a personal level as well. The ebbs and flows, the ups and downs, and the patterns and cycles that shape our very existence are powerful moments of destiny and opportunities for growth.

Astrology has showed me first-hand how we all have our own behavioral patterns imbedded in our energetic blueprint (i.e. our birth chart); these patterns run even deeper, threading their way into our subconscious, which aids (for better or worse) in selecting our romantic partners.

When I speak in terms of patterns, I’m also referring to cycles. Both carry a rhythm… a beat… a pulse. Things don’t just happen haphazardly, there’s synchronicity to the Universe and in your soul.

Just as there is an order to everything in the Universe, there’s also a reason I’m mentioning this right now. As we enter the month of Valentine’s Day, many of you may start to energetically embrace or deny the feelings of love. Some may relish in it, while others may start to experience more anxiety. It’s only human to want to date and I encourage you to do so! However, what I’ve seen time and time again in reading many of my client astrology charts is that there are cycles when we are “on” and cycles when we are… well, basically… not so “hot.” That’s because, you can’t rush divine magic.

Astrology has taught me to be patient; I’ve seen events happen exactly when they are supposed to. Not sooner, not later. Everything is cyclical and each period of life has its own pattern to it… it’s the beauty of organized chaos that makes up the divine magic in the Universe.

Of course, you absolutely still have free will! However, there are certain karmic events that are destined to happen at specific times in your life. Some you can bring in sooner, and some are mapped out for you. It’s the balance and dance of free will and destiny… again, much like the rhythm of the Universe.

So… should you stop your life until your relationship cycle starts? Absolutely not! This is where your free will comes in. Life goes on with or without a lover. Your task is to make sure you’re living your best life possible so it’s a beautiful merging of two divine souls who are free and clear of their underlying “junk” when that person comes along. (Yes, that is my technical term!)


Below are 5 tips you can use to make sure you’re ready and open to fully receive love when your cycle/patterns are ready to manifest:

1)      Be the best you can be.

No really, I mean it! You know all those things you keep saying you’re going to do… like start an art project, clean out the extra room to make space for a treadmill, join a group with like-minded people… well, what are you waiting for? Now is the time to do it! Your personal time becomes even more sacred when you’re in a relationship. Now is the time to do ALL those things you’ve been wanting to do because your priorities are definitely going to shift at some point later on. You have the time now (relatively speaking… we’re all so busy!), so embrace it. Go for it and be in the moment.

2)      Fulfill your birth chart.

When you put your energy where your soul is urging you to and you “feed” your chart, meaning you express yourself in the way that you are meant to and/or nurture yourself how you need it (look to your moon in your chart!), you will vibrate at a higher frequency and attract more positive experiences. Think about it, what if it was another three years until you were going to be married? Do you want to spend those three years being miserable, moping around, and missing out on the REST of life just because you don’t have a significant other? There is SO much more to life than that. Learn to focus and channel your energy into what makes you happy. Your birth chart has many clues if you’re confused.

3)      Find acceptance.

Accept yourself wherever you are right in this very second. (Tweet that line!) Stop beating yourself up because you think you should be making more money, have a better job, have a family, etc. You WILL get all those things you want, however, you have to accept yourself fully first. Again, this shift changes your vibration and allows for more opportunities (ahem, dates!) to come in. Who wants to go on a date with someone so unhappy? Exactly! It’s as if your “closed for business” sign gets yanked off when you change your outlook and truly love and accept yourself fully. Do this and welcome in new people and experiences for growth… i.e. happiness!

4)      Try something new.

Step outside of your comfort zone. Much like the movie Groundhogs Day, we are all creatures of habit doing the same thing over and over until we’re forced into something new (typically by Pluto or Uranus transiting your birth chart). Zzzzzzz… yup it gets old. However, what if I told you that your life partner was waiting just beyond your comfort zone? Aha! Now that I have your attention – learn to mix it up! Try something new because that’s what life is all about.

Note: If you’re a mutable sign (Pisces, Virgo, Gemini, Sagittarius) or a Cardinal sign (Libra, Aries, Cancer, Capricorn), this may be a little easier for you then the fixed signs (Taurus, Scorpio, Leo, Aquarius). However, it depends on the rest of your chart – not just your Sun sign. If you are a fixed sign, ask a friend to join you on a new adventure; that way you are held accountable to someone else… and being a loyal fixed sign, I KNOW you don’t want to let them down!

5)      Heal yourself in the meantime.

We all have wounded parts of ourselves that operate on a subconscious level. These wounds need to be healed so we don’t keep attracting the same type of person just in a different body… ya know what I’m saying?! Look at who you are attracting. Relationships act as mirrors and reflect back to you that which you are denying, or what needs healing within yourself. Honor those parts of yourself and you’ll no longer need to attract the wrong type or person. If you need more help with this, pop on over to my website and check out the SOULover package. I created this out of a need from my clients for more one-on-one coaching, healing, and transformation.

So, next time you feel like you’re not in the flow, remember, everything is cyclical and this too shall pass. In the meantime, sync back up with the Universe by connecting to your breath and learning to be in the moment. Remember, the Universe has always and will always be a beautiful compilation of organized chaos. Flow with it.

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Danielle Paige is a healer and spiritual life coach who uses astrology as a tool to uncover the truth of your purpose in this lifetime. She is passionate about helping her clients understand the energies they were born into so they can live happier, more fulfilling lives. For an in-depth, personalized reading on your own birth chart, which will help you gain insight into your love life, career, money, strengths, your soul’s purpose, and even your karmic past, you can contact Danielle at or sign up for her newsletter at
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