There is no denying it; looks are definitely a factor when it comes to dating. Are they everything? Absolutely not! But they do matter. And by “matter,” I’m not talking about the vanity of only dating people who would rate as a 10 on the Jew-licious meter. Looks matter when it comes to online dating because what someone looks like (i.e., how they dress, how they style their hair, how they pose in a picture) can give you great insight into who they are as a person. And that little nugget of information right there is a huge reason why you need a profile picture. So, here are three tips to help you see the big picture when it comes to picking your profile picture!

1. Choose An Eye-Catching Default Photo

When it comes to picking a main profile picture, stick to the basics. Other daters want to see a recent and in-focus headshot of you (and only you). Gentlemen, this means stay away from the cutesy pics of you being kissed on the cheek by a woman (even if she’s your sister). Ladies, maybe it’s best not to include the group shot of you and the Chippendales men from your cousin’s bachelorette party in Vegas. Bottom line, you can’t go wrong with a simple profile picture that shows off your gorgeous smile!

2. Add a Few More

You should have a minimum of three different photos for your online dating profile. The three pictures you choose should include the headshot I just mentioned, as well as one full body shot and another picture of you participating in one of your favorite activities. The headshot and full body shot will give other members a feel for what you really look like, while the last picture gives a peek into your personality.

Again, choose clear, up-to-date pictures that show your face and avoid using shots that include other people. It’s great you have friends, but potential matches don’t want to have to sit there figuring out which person you are!

3. Think Happy Thoughts

When it comes to picking out a profile picture, think fun, happy, warm and interesting thoughts! Pictures of people who are smiling, laughing and having fun are always the most attractive. Think about the things that you love about your life. Are you a great skier? Do you love to paint? Are you always off on some exotic adventure? Figure out whatever it is that makes you special and include something about that quality in at least one of your photos!

Take it from our research; 89% of JDaters® only search for and write to matches with profile photos. Seeing a picture of you makes people more comfortable when they message you. They want to envision the person they’re writing to, rather than just sending a message off to some mysterious person who could be tall, short, brunette, blond, or any other combination of characteristics! And don’t forget, adding new photos to your profile is the fastest and easiest way to get more attention from other JDaters!



Rachel is JDate’s Community Manager. She’s here to break down the rules of dating, share first date tips and offer words of encouragement when dating gets tough. Hit up her Tumblr page for more insightful advice. Or, learn what makes Rachel tick by visiting her JDate profile!
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  1. I also look at the background of profile pixs. If it looks inviting that adds motivation to be in touch, if it’s on a tacky sofa or cluttered living room I’m much more likely to hesitate.
    Thanks for your suggestions.

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