Dear Gems from Jen,
Here is my profile description — it’s not getting a flood of responses. Can you tell me why or what to do to improve it?
I am a Jewish secular humanist who believes in a human-driven ethical code, rather than in any kind of deity. Still believe in peace and love and working for a more just and humane society. Empathy, humility and kindness are most important to me when considering a potential partner. I am drawn to the arts, particularly music and painting, and I love to read in my spare time, especially poetry and history. I seek a compatible partner — must be politically progressive (e.g., liberal democrat — I am a big fan of Bernie Sanders but you don’t have to be). Basically, I am looking for someone who is in some way an activist — someone who has compassion for the struggles of the poor and disenfranchised. Basically seeking an educated, humane, giving person who is a reader, a thinker, and someone with a compatible world view.
Dear Secular Humanist,
I really enjoyed reading your profile description. It sounds like you are passionate about your beliefs and look for the good in all. I think your profile does a great job of describing who you are. Perhaps you could add some specifics about what it is you can offer to a relationship. Your profile definitely states who you are and what you are passionate about, but it lacks what you can offer to a potential romantic partner. Specifically, what it is you can give one on one, not to the entire world. How do you stand out in terms of a partner from the next profile? Consider adding some of these specifics to your JDate profile and see what happens.
Have you emailed or Flirted with people on JDate that interest you? Spend a few minutes a day looking at profiles and reach out to those who spark your interest. Remember, everyone has their preferences and just because you are not getting a flood of responses does not mean that there is anything wrong with your profile.
Gems from Jen