Dear Gems from Jen,

How can I find the right person to date? I’ve been trying to find the right person and be happy with that person. I’m single and have not dated in a while. I am afraid to start.

Dear Afraid to Start,

You have already taken the first step in your dating journey.  Acknowledging your fear is a positive step in the right direction.  Take solace in the notion that most people are afraid to start. Dating can make us vulnerable and heighten our insecurities. However, without sounding cliché you must take the risk in order to reap the reward.
Begin with updating your JDate profile.  List your strengths. Put up some recent photos and enjoy the process of starting. Browse profiles whenever you get a chance and reach out when someone grabs your attention.  If you want to find the right person and be happy you are going to have to start at some point.  There is no time like the present.

Signed,

Gems from Jen