Oy, first dates. It’s enough to make you want to throw up sometimes. You certainly wouldn’t be the first person to have a simple or complex case of agita right before meeting a new love interest. But before you break out the Tums and start to turn green, remember that everyone, even the most confident person you know, gets nervous before a first date. You’re only human, after all.
Instead of deciding that the date will bomb and feeding into those bad tummy feelings, take action to make that evil wicked heartburn disappear from your stomach and kick those nerves away! Starting a first date with the right attitude is important. Getting bogged down in the “what ifs” or other catastrophic thinking certainly won’t make your heartburn any better, nor will it make the date go very well! Try these tips to make the burping, discomfort and anxious nerves go away before shaking hands or kissing cheeks on date numero uno.
1. Remind Yourself How Hot You Are
That’s right. You’re damn hot. Did you know that? You look good, kid, and if you don’t think so, take a peek at old photos of yourself circa middle school and high school. Didn’t you look ridiculous back then? You look much better now. You’re a grown adult with goals, direction and dreams. You are confident and sexy. Even if you don’t feel confident or sexy, tell yourself that you are.
Look at yourself in the mirror and say, “Damn, I’m hot!” and watch those nerves and heartburn melt away.
2. Take Preventative Measures
Don’t talk to your mother, whatever you do. Don’t tell her about the date; telling her will only lead to agita … and then more agita when she nags you for the story afterwards. The less she knows, the better. It doesn’t matter if you’re her favorite Jewish son or least favorite Jewish daughter, (kidding – I’m sure she loves you!) no man or woman will really be good enough anyway, and all her prying will only increase your first date anxiety.
3. Keep It Simple
It’s just a date! This isn’t rocket science or open heart surgery. Remind yourself that even if this date goes bad, nothing else changes about your life. Everything is exactly the same as it was.
Sure, that means you’re still single, but being happily single is better than being miserably coupled. Most dates won’t lead to long-term romance or marriage, so just take it as a fun new experience and a chance to meet someone new. This will take the pressure (and the agita) off you and off your date as well. Less pressure = more fun!
4. Try A Little Milk Cure
Drink a little milk. Heartburn is a bitch, but dating doesn’t have to be. Pour a glass of milk. It must just help.
Another solution is papaya enzyme. Trust me, it’s much more appealing than Tums or drinking Maalox.
5. Remember That The Other Side Is Nervous, Too
Your date is probably nervous, too. It’s not like this person has all the 411 about you, so they’re going through the same apprehension and maybe even a bit of agita themselves. For all you know, you could be the person’s first date in a very long time.
With these tips, you’re ready to tackle your agita so you can enjoy your first date to the fullest.
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