Dear Gems from Jen,
I met a guy online and we were taking it slowly. We started to chat online then talk via phone….
Unfortunately, I got a bit nervous about the whole “Internet dating thing” and I scared him away. We were at the stage where we were considering to meet etc…but my email sounded very reluctant.
This guy comes across as very decent and it has been a long time since I have had a great chat with someone. I really wish I can take back my message, maybe things would be different now.
Can I fix this or should I just walk away?
Look forward to your thoughts.
Dear Can We Fix This,
If you really want to fix this, then it can be fixed. At least to the point where you can let this guy know what happened and ask for another shot at a first meeting. Write him back, or better yet call him.  Share your reluctance with him and let him know how you are truly feeling. I understand the whole meeting on the Internet thing can be scary. Make sure you let someone close to you know when and where you are going.  Make him aware that you are experiencing regret based on your email and would like a chance to meet. Having a great conversation with someone does not come along every day, so do yourself a favor and let this guy know how much you have enjoyed speaking with him.  You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
If for some reason he is no longer interested in meeting, chalk this up to a lesson learned. Don’t repeat the same mistake with the next person you converse with online and continue your search.  Be sure to remember this lesson and don’t let the guys that you feel a connection with get away.
Gems from Jen