Every single has an idea of their must-haves and must-nots. But having that list in your head will allow you to alter it as you go. By not having it written down, you will make allowances for each prospect in order to make that person work for you. Of course, you can make changes to your list as you live and learn, but there should be some constants on there. We are all human – most of us can change and we will as we grow, but there are intrinsic values and traits we each have that isn’t going to change too much. And that means your list of musts shouldn’t change too much. And that’s why you need to start writing down your list and not get distracted by a date that sweeps you off your feet when really you aren’t compatible.
What are your make-or-break items? Do you want kids? Do you want to live in a specific city? Do you want someone who keeps kosher? Your must have items should not be negotiable and no one should be able to convince you otherwise.