Want to make a great first impression on that cute guy who finally asked you out? Well, keep in mind that men are more observant than you think!
1. Look at Your B.O.B (Battery Operated Boyfriend)
a. I, yes I, will feel personally insulted if you are checking your phone and not giving the man you are with the time of day. He will feel below sea level if you give more attention to a device than him.
b. EXCEPTION: If you are getting multiple vibrations from your pocket or purse because your ringer is not on, then YOU MUST ALSO LET HIM KNOW WHY you have to take that electronic device out.
i. “So sorry, but it might be an emergency!” is acceptable.
2. Dress Like It’s Fashion Week
a. The fanciest he is dressing is slacks and a button-down (maybe a nice vest/jacket). So, unless he’s taking you to a wedding (side note: never go to a wedding as a first date… unless you just want that food and drank), dressing in a fancy dress will just make both him and you uncomfortable.
b. EXCEPTION: If he’s invited you to a real fancy event, and you can assume he will be looking dapper, you should go all-out on your outfit. USE GOOD JUDGEMENT. ASK A FRIEND IF NEED BE!
3. Assume He Is Treating You
a. Guys love to feel chivalrous, but they also hate feeling taken advantage of. Let him grab his wallet first and then make a move for your own. The guy will, eight times out of ten, wave off your money, or card and give you that “I’m a manly man” smile, that should melt your heart, because they feel special for being able to treat you.
b. If you, however, want to pay for your half, by all means, you should be prepared to lay down that cash.
c. Note: Don’t ever make a move for your wallet, and then pull back before he wards you off. That’s an Ultimate No-No! He will immediately pick up an “I’m being used” vibe from you and be turned off.
4. Interview Him!
a. First dates are a two-way interview! Prepare your answers as well as your questions! You should know the drill, ladies!
i. “Where do you work?”
ii. “Have any hobbies?”
b. Even the guy who enjoys talking about himself can’t go on and on for an extended period of time. He needs a lapse of time to look at your eyes and hear all about you!
c. NO EXCEPTIONS!
5. Share a Bed That Night
a. You are not to have sex on any first date. That is to be preserved for the honeymoon dating phase or, and bear with me, till marriage.
b. EXCEPTION: If you know for sure, and I mean for sure, that a relationship with him would never come to fruition and you have an itch that you need scratched… go for it. However, you have to let him know the ground rules beforehand!
6. Just Be You… Even If You’re ‘The Girl from that Chick-Flick.’
a. The absolute worst thing you can do is be nervous about representing who you truly are, because it will only lead to problems down the line.
b. Deception is frowned upon by males. You know the saying, “Bros before hos?” Well, it applies to you as well. Deceiving your Bro is like breaking one of the Ten Commandments, and since you are trying to basically become a female version of this guy’s Bro, be yourself. If the “Bro-lationship” is meant to be, it will be because you represented your true self.
c. To that end, don’t order a salad if you don’t like eating leaves on a dinner date (which I am not a fan of as a first date to begin with). Order what you would have if you were going to dinner with your best friend, because that level of realism will be noticed and appreciated by the guy, who is supposed to be becoming your best friend.
d. NO EXCEPTIONS!
David Jacobowitz is JMag’s newest contributor. He graduated with a Bachelor’s Degree in History at UC Berkeley and works as a Marketing Development Associate for JDate.