I’ve been attempting to get in contact with this girl whom I’d like to get to know. But I’m not getting anywhere.
She originally viewed my profile and, after looking at hers, I decided to send her a message. I didn’t get a response but she did look at my profile again, good news I guess. I then waited a few days to see if she would reply to my message and still nothing.
I then sent a follow up message and again no response but she viewed my profile again. I’m not 100% sure what this means, but I think that she’s interested but somewhat unsure about responding.
Do you have any advice? She seems like someone who I can develop a relationship with.
Dear Viewing Game,
First, look to see if your email to her was “read” or not. If it was read by her and she hasn’t yet responded but she’s still viewing your profile, then perhaps write her again and jokingly let her know that you know she’s unsure about whether to respond and that you’ll make it worth her effort, or that she won’t be disappointed, or something else fun and light-hearted.
If your message isn’t showing as “read” then unfortunately, it sounds like she may not have a paid JDate account. Obviously, being able to contact prospective JDaters is the biggest reason to get a paid account and sometimes people wait until they have someone who’ve they’ve played this viewing game with before finally joining. Try sending her a flirt since she can see that without being a subscriber. She won’t be able to respond but it might be the catalyst to finally getting her to subscribe.
The final option is to try and catch her online so that you can instant message her. Again, you have to be a subscriber to begin the IM session but she doesn’t have to be a subscriber to answer. Now, go get her!
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