Are you maximizing your experience on JDate? Do you do everything possible to meet your perfect match? Are you meeting as many people as possible? If not, here are a few ideas.

Expand your search preferences when doing searches for potential dating interests. Perhaps you have been seeking a date that is taller than a specific height, or located within a certain distance. You might be best served by expanding your search criteria. Lower the height requirement by a couple of inches. Expand the distance you would travel to meet a date. Include matches that might have been divorced and those with blonde/brown/red hair. Hey, you never know who will steal your heart, and by expanding your search preferences, you will find many more potential matches.

Check frequently for new JDater®s in your searches. Instead of simply running your saved search, why don’t you run one showing your newest matches? The early bird gets the worm.

Follow up on your Flirts. Should you decide to use the Flirt function, make sure you then send a personalized letter to that person. Flirts can be cop-outs. Frequently, JDaters will not respond to Flirts thinking that people are sending them to hundreds of men/women and that that member is not putting any effort into meeting them personally. Make yourself stand out by sending an excellent email.

Update your photos often. Read my article on JDate from October 19th with respect to posting proper photos. Keep your profile fresh. After you change your photos, you might have people reviewing your profile that never gave you a glance before.

Look into going on a JDate Travel getaway. Besides being a lot of fun, you will be meeting a lot of new people, all at once, from all over the country. The event organizers will make sure you meet as many people as possible. Many couples have met on these trips and have later married. In fact, one of my best friends met his wife on the JDate trip to Puerto Rico in December, 2007.

Attend the JDate parties in your area. You might have been avoiding them since you have already checked out all of the guys/girls in your area while doing searches. This isn’t the case. Many people who haven’t posted photos will attend these events. Also, many JDaters will bring friends who are not currently members of JDate. You never know who you will meet.

Finally, read the articles on JMag®. There are many things to learn not only about how to best utilize JDate (my articles), but also about living the single life (Sherri Langburt). You will find many articles on JMag that will be of interest to you and help you finally meet your perfect match.

After being a bachelor for many years and counseling his friends about dating, Brad Berkowitz, who is now a JDate Success Story, decided to write the book, The 21st Century Guide to Bachelorhood: Lessons Learned Over 20 Years, to help other men navigate the dating scene. To purchase the book, click here! For more articles by Brad, click here.
  1. Can you please tell me more about JDate Travel Getaways? Sounds wonderful. Where do they go? Who sets them up?

  2. They are listed in the upper left corner of the site under Travel and Events. They have had trips to Mexico, Puerto Rico, etc. I have had several friends meet people on these trips. In fact, one of my best friends met his wife on the P.R. trip in 12/07

  3. I do not understand:

    Why do some people not post photos?

    I am 56, why do the majority of guys my age seek 35-45? or 40-50?

    Personally, I would prefer someone very close to my age.
    Instead, I am contacted by 63-74 year olds, many of whom are leading sedate lives which would never coincide with my active one.

    I appreciate your advice. Thank you.

  4. A guy is most likely going to contact a younger woman no matter what his age is. You might have answered your own question. You said, “Personally, I would prefer someone my own age.” If I guy was asked that question, he would say, “Personally, I would prefer someone ten years younger.” Thats just the way guys think. Yes, there are couples where the woman is older, but they are far more rare than the norm.

    Many people on the site still do not post photos. I consider that a red flag. Are they hiding something? Are they married looking for an affair. Are then not exactly what they say they are in their essays? Are they cheating on their girlfriend? Hey, if a guy contacts a woman stricly on looks, then it is only fair that he posts a few accurate and current photos of himself.

  5. In nreference to the comment about age. I’ve seen a lot of comments from men in their profiles about women not being honest about their age but women in their mid and late fifties almost have to in order to keep from having to settle for being some old guy’s caregiver. I did and experiment where I put my age at 52 and I got 3 times the hits as when I put it at 55 and 57. (Can’t help it, I’m a social scientist at heart)
    How does an older but still very active woman compete on the Jdate scene?

  6. i have been on here over 3 weeks. i am 52 and have two children 10 and 21. Most of the men that have written me back and that has only been a couple all say they are involved with someone yet they are still on the site. I don’t understand and also don’t understand why men are looking for these “perfect women”. i am not athletic yet every man seems to look for that. Do i have a chance or is this a waste of time.

  7. I joined JDate a few days ago. Today I received a flirt from a woman who, after looking at her profile, I decided I was not interested in. I’m wondering what the proper etiquette is in this situation. Do I send a polite response saying so, or just ignore it?

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