Dear Gems from Jen,
Over the past few months, I have seen a number of young ladies on JDate whose profiles caught my interest. I have been using the Flirt feature to initiate correspondence, but looking at my sent messages box, approximately 95% of all Flirts are never actually opened. Am I missing something here?
Granted a response, whether positive or otherwise, would be only courteous, but to not even open the Flirts or even look at my profile seems a little overly harsh.
Or are single Flirts just pestering, and counter-productive?
I understand your frustration. You and I are on the same page. A response would be the courteous thing to do. Unfortunately, not everyone is as courteous as we would like for them to be.
I don’t know if I would say the use of Flirts is pestering or counter-productive, but they haven’t gotten you the responses you would like. You can look at this one of two ways. First, if a woman does not respond to your Flirt you can go ahead and count her out. You don’t want to date someone who doesn’t utilize common courtesy. Or, you could choose to look at the situation this way; many women on JDate are being sent Flirts daily from many different people. My experience tells me that a well thought out email is probably the best way to go if you want to catch someone’s attention. Most of the women I know would much prefer an email over a Flirt. For me personally, I want to know you took the time to read my profile and you are not interested in getting to know me better just based on my profile pictures.
I hope this helps.
Gems from Jen