Dear Gems from Jen,

How long after the initial “hi” email should one wait to divulge their real name and actual phone number?

Dear Giving Information,

I believe this question is different for every person using JDate. The first step is to feel comfortable with the person you are communicating with.  Ask yourself these questions; do I want to meet the person? What is my motivation in communicating with this person? Can I be my authentic self while communicating with this person? Once you have answered these questions, ask yourself if you believe the person on the other side of the email is being truthful?  Do you feel safe thus far in the process? If you are sincerely interested in getting to know the person better and meeting in the real world then give your name and phone number. I hope this helps!


Gems from Jen