Dear Gems from Jen,
 
I’m always asked why I never married or why I am not working and living in a nice area. I am not married as I grew up with epilepsy. I no longer have it, yet still on Social Security Disability Insurance (SSDI) and doctors say never give it up. I was financially secure, so I had long relationships with men and best friends-just wasn’t able to marry. I have been asked four times, even by a doctor and lawyer; however, I couldn’t drive or have kids.
 
Thanks,
 
Nancy
 
Dear Nancy,
 
It sounds to me like you have a very honest answer to this question. I wonder if you pose the same question to the men whom are asking this of you. Why were they themselves never married? If they were married why are they no longer in that relationship? Everyone has a past and some people have a hard time allowing others to have their past and move forward.  It sounds to me as if you are doing great, so keep your answer.  Be proud of who you are and present yourself in a manner that projects confidence not just about what you represent today and for the future, but what got you to this point in your life. The only thing we have is today.  The past is just that; the past.  Anyone who cannot accept you for being you, as well as your history, isn’t worth your time and/or energy! Keep using JDate and I have every confidence that there will be a match just for you!
 
Signed,
 
Gems from Jen