So you’re entering another year single. To make matters worse, you didn’t think you’d be in this position again 365 days ago. Getting down about it isn’t going to help change your situation, but having the right attitude will! As you make your new year’s resolutions, think about what you can do to change things so that by this time next year, you’ll be in the relationship you want.

Need a few ideas to get you started? Here are my recommended resolutions for 2016:

1. Consider getting help from a pro. If you’ve been single for what feels like longer than the Jews wandered the desert, then perhaps look into starting therapy sessions. There is no shame in getting professional help. We all have baggage of some kind – what I like to call our “stories” – that makes us who we are, but with help we can overcome some of the obstacles in our paths.

2. Make your “me” resolutions first, aka your career/gym/time-management/organizational goals. Those are things that you need to prioritize before dating. Perhaps this was your goal last year as well, but we all know it’s easy to lose focus as the months go on. This year, promise yourself that you will concentrate on making YOU better first! Making an actual list that you keep handy can help keep you accountable.

3. Have a trusted confidant (or me!) review your JDate profile. It may be time for a total makeover. While you’re editing, review what you bring to the table and why you’re looking for the type of prospects you want. Play around with your preferences and think about what categories are worth compromising on. And when you’re done, buy a paid membership if you haven’t already so you can fully explore the site.

4. Smile! Take the time to appreciate the things you do have. Look forward with a positive mindset that 2016 is going to be a great year!

 

What are your dating resolutions for the new year?