Hi Gems from Jen,
I am almost ashamed to say but I’ve been registered on JDate for about seven months. I’ve had several nice chats and even one or two dates (yes, only one or two). Now, obviously, I am missing something here and either it’s me or the way I approach all of this and I don’t see it to the extent that I can solve it. I need someone to point me in the right direction. What is your advice?

Dear No Go,
JDate is a terrific way to meet new people and hopefully find that special someone. It sounds to me as if you have not given this the time and attention it needs. I’m not sure if you are not spending enough time looking at profiles or if your profile might need some updating.
The first step is to have an idea of what it is you are actually looking for. Make some time to sit down and really consider the qualities that you are searching for in another person. Once you have narrowed down some of the most important qualities commit to dating. Take the time to write to people that you feel would be a good match. Respond to those who take their time to connect with you. If you are serious about using your JDate membership to the fullest capacity then the make the decision to take this service seriously.
Next, spice up your profile, add more pictures, write down what you are truly looking for, describe who you genuinely are, and keep your options open. Dating takes time and energy and we only get out of it what we are willing to put into it. There is nothing to be ashamed of, we do not have the power to change the past, but we can change the present and future through our actions in the here and now. Embrace the dating world head on and give it your all!
Gems from Jen