Dear Tamar,
What is the best, systematic way to create a profile and search successfully on JDate?
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Dear Systematic Searcher,
The easy answer? Buy my book, How to Woo a Jew, The Modern Jewish Guide to Dating and Mating.
The more complicated answer? Be honest about your stats (age, education level, height/weight, religious level) first and foremost. Next, choose your preferences in a mate. Start off by selecting your “perfect prospect,” and then broaden the preferences from there.
If you don’t have at least 100 prospects to check out, then your preferences are too narrow, and you need to compromise somewhere regarding what, exactly, you’re looking for. You aren’t going to find someone who encompasses everything, but you can find most things by giving in, bit by bit. Here are a few helpful questions to ask yourself to make sure you aren’t being too strict in any certain area:
- How wide is your age range?
- Just because you have a PhD does it mean your mate has to as well?
- If someone lives within a 25 mile radius, then what’s another 25 miles?