Have you ever wondered what your ex is up to these days? Whether you’ve been broken up three days, three months or three years, you simply might get the urge to check up on them. It’s a natural feeling, so don’t beat yourself up over it. If you want to maybe take a quick look at a current photo of them, by all means, go for it. But do NOT start stalking them. It’s tempting to keep looking after peeking at that one photo, but this is a rabbit hole you definitely do not want to go down. Don’t believe me? Check out these reasons that stalking your ex on social media is a bad idea.
1. Stalking = Wrong
Stalking is just plain wrong. Whether it’s an ex, a current interest, a friend or anyone else for that matter, it’s bad. In fact, it can turn into an illegal activity if taken to the extreme.
2. You’ll Get Stuck In The Past
It’s one thing if you’re innocently looking at an ex’s profile on Facebook, but if it turns into you scrolling for an hour and looking at every single picture they’ve posted, who is in those pictures, who has written on their wall, who they’ve followed on Instagram, etc. … you’re living in the past, my friend. Whether you have a new significant other or not, if you’re spending that much time dwelling on your ex, you’re not going to be able to enjoy the present and your current BF or GF (or if you’re single, the possibility of meeting someone). Let your ex go.
3. Their New Boo Is None Of Your Business
I know, I know … you want to know who the girl or guy is who has stolen your ex’s heart. Why did he chose her over you? What do they do together? Just stop. Who cares who this girl is? It’s not you. Your ex has moved on and you need to as well. Even if you’re happily in a new relationship, there is no need to find out everything there is to know about the new BF or GF. You wouldn’t want someone doing it to you. Kinda creepy, eh?
4. One Click Could Make It Super Awkward
What if you accidentally hit “Add Friend” or “Follow” while social media stalking your ex or your ex’s new significant other? Oh, the horror! Can you imagine? It’s even worse if you happen to “Like” an old post that reveals just how far back you’ve gone on their feed. Just don’t put yourself in this situation and you won’t have to worry about that ever happening.
5. Your Brain Needs A Break
If you start stalking, it’s going to be on your mind constantly, not just when the stalking is happening. You’ll probably end up having a dream about your ex, and that’s not necessarily a fun thing to wake up to. Give your brain a break. Just don’t stalk and you can avoid having your mind consumed with thoughts of your ex.
Like I said, it’s very natural to want to know what your ex is up to. We’re humans, aren’t we? However, there’s a difference between innocently stumbling upon a photo and going into hardcore stalking mode. At the end of the day, an ex is an ex for a reason. Let’s keep them in the past where they belong.
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