Alright guys, I know you might think that holidays when you’re single can be tough. However, they truly don’t have to be. They can actually be really, really awesome. Seriously! I know I know, no NYE kiss with a hot boyfriend, no hand holding while walking down the street looking at the holiday lights, etc. It might sound like a total bummer, but spoiler alert: IT’S NOT.
When you’re single, you have no one to answer to but yourself. You don’t have to run your plans by anyone else. You can do whatever the heck you want. And if you want to take a two-week vacay over the holidays to a yoga retreat in Bali, by all means, go for it. If you want to go see a concert with your cousins on NYE and not go to the party all your coupled-up friends are going to, do it. The world is your oyster, and you should take full advantage of that.
Now, in case you’re still not convinced that going through the holidays single can actually be fun, here are some tips on how to make it the best holiday season ever.
1. Stay Positive
For starters, say goodbye to that negative attitude. Remain positive even when you’re feeling down in the dumps. I know that might be easier said than done, but force yourself to stay positive. Smile, tell yourself that it’s going to be okay and put things in perspective by reminding yourself that you have a lot to be thankful for. No one wants to be around a “Debbie Downer,” so stay as positive as you can possibly be.
2. Say “Yes” More
Put yourself out there and go to events that you get invited to. I’m not saying to cram your social calendar so much so that you get burnt out and exhausted, but I am saying to say “YES” more often than not. Even if you’re not thrilled to be going to a Hanukkah party solo, think of it as an incredible opportunity to meet new people. Do NOT go into it with the expectation that you’re going to meet your future hubby, but do go into it with a positive attitude (see above) and have fun.
3. Initiate Plans
Whether you’re shy or not, push yourself to initiate the plans. Staying busy is always a good thing as it can help to keep your mind off of the fact that you’re single or recently went through a breakup. Ask your co-worker to get drinks, meet up with your friends and their friends, plan a Hanukkah gathering, or chat up that cutie you found on JDate recently.
4. Pick Up A New Hobby
You know how you’ve been dying to take that calligraphy class, but you keep coming up with nonsense reasons why you shouldn’t? Well, now is the time to sign up for it. Go take that calligraphy class, and continue it throughout the new year. Who cares if you don’t have a bae to cuddle with? Now you’re a kick-ass guitarist (I’ve been wanting to take both a calligraphy class and guitar lessons, btw).
5. Sweat It Out
These last few weeks of the year typically include way too many calories, and come January 1st, everyone is back on their health kicks. However, don’t wait until January 1st to work up a sweat. I’m not saying to NOT eat the sweets; you should eat those sweets, but work out, too. There’s no need to feel crappy these last few weeks. Join a gym, take some new workout classes and start feeling great about yourself, which will only help as you go into 2017. When you look good, you feel good.
6. Remember That It’s Temporary
If the holiday blues still get to you once in a while, that’s okay; don’t beat yourself up over it. Just know that this too shall pass. You should never wish your days away. Life is short as it is, but you should realize that before you know it, the holidays will be over, a new year will have begun and you will have survived.
So, folks, if you don’t have that special someone to enjoy the holiday season with, it’s really not a big deal. You can still have a good time with the added benefit of focusing on YOU. Enjoy every moment, and happy holidays!
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