Jerry Seinfeld wisely observed that breaking up with someone was like trying to tip over a soda machine. You can’t do it in one push. You have to get it rocking. Once it is moving and unstable, only then can you push it over. In some occasions the exploding soda pop (i.e. relationship) can be rescued and resuscitated, but that happens only when both partners are committed and have the strong desire to push through the bumps and understand what is causing the hiccups in the first place. We all know fights are never about the “actual” fight. Once you discover the true cause of concern, the reality of the situation is usually unmasked. The majority of the time it is “fear” of something. Fear is one of the strongest motivations causing people to act in one manner or another. No matter how you look at it, whether you are on the initiating or receiving end of pushing over a soda machine, it is never fun. The potential you had romantically hoped for seems no longer viable. If you dated a long time, you are possibly missing your best friend (and that is probably the toughest). Usually, there are two routes: Some folks attempt to fry the same egg twice and start over giving it another shot; while others prefer to hope that a new bus is around the corner with new possibilities. With Spring around the corner, here’s hoping for new beginnings in whichever form they may come.