Dear Gems from Jen,

I was married for 20 years, I have had a beard since I was 17. Now back on the market, I am told that beards our “out” – and that if I want to attract an attractive woman that I need to shave it.

Dear Bearded Guy,

I believe everyone has their own preference.  Beards, goatees, clean shaven, 5:00 shadow, etc. Just because you heard something was “out” does not make it true. How would you feel if you did shave your beard? Give it a shot and if you don’t like the way you look, grow it back. I know for me personally facial hair usually has no influence over who I am attracted to. Just keep in mind what one person finds attractive does not necessarily mean the next person will find the same quality or qualities attractive. I also would like for you to remember it truly isn’t about what is on the outside, but rather what is on the inside.

Gems from Jen