Romance seems to be one of those things where you either love it or hate it. You either thrive on it and believe in it and want it so badly, deep within your bones, or you think it’s silly and cheesy.

I suppose there’s an in between, but most people I’ve talked to are on one end of the spectrum or the other. They either think it’s absolutely necessary for a successful relationship, or they think it’s borderline ridiculous.

But here’s the thing. What if romance didn’t have to be cheesy? Who cares if you consider yourself “romantic?” Sometimes, a not-so-traditional romantic gesture can be exactly what your significant other is looking for. In fact, they may not even be looking for it, but maybe you’ll catch them off guard and they’ll be completely taken aback (in the best way possible).

So, what are some “romantic” gestures that can flip this stereotype on its head and potentially give your relationship a boost? Here are a few ideas.

It’s All About Diet Coke

For example, my vice is Diet Coke. I know it’s bad for me and I know I shouldn’t drink it, but I can’t help it. I’m addicted. I drink one (sometimes two) a day.

Meanwhile, my husband loathes all types of soda (or pop, for you Midwestern folks), and he kind of hates that I drink Diet Coke.

Well, on our anniversary this past year, he came home from work with a … wait for it … LARGE DIET COKE. Nope, not flowers. A Diet Coke! I, quite literally, almost cried. It was the most romantic thing he’s ever done for me! Who needs flowers when you get Diet Coke? Really, that’s how I felt.

But, in all seriousness, it wasn’t the fact that he brought me a $1.99 fountain soda, but it was the fact that he thought to bring me something that makes me so happy (whether good for me or not). And it was something he wouldn’t normally think about. Seriously, I’ll never forget it.

No Flowers Or Chocolate Necessary

The point is you don’t need to go for the flowers and chocolates and stereotypical “romantic gestures.” Think outside the box. Think about things she’s always mentioning or something you know she loves, but might seem silly (Diet Coke!), and go out of your way to show her you know what would surprise her and make her so happy at the same time.

Sometimes, romance can get a bad rap. But it doesn’t need to be that way! You don’t need to buy out every single candle in the city and put on the Marvin Gaye soundtrack to be romantic. Just get her a coke.

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