Rosh Hashana is a time of purification and new beginnings.  Water is symbolic of this.  I love water and have been writing about it for my upcoming book, The Book of Sacred Baths: 52 Bathing Rituals to Revitalize Your Spirit.  I have experienced first-hand many times how water can purify your energy, improve your Divine connection and intuition and raise your consciousness, creating clarity.

Rosh Hashana embraces the symbol of water offering us the ancient rituals of our ancestors. We can cleanse and create a blank new slate to begin again, more present and fully in our power. What a gift!

The first water ritual is the Mikveh. Mikvehs are Judaic baths for spiritual purification in a natural or constructed body of water with precise specifications in size and contents. It’s a metaphor of restoration, like a womb where you are reborn. Rabbis of the Talmud stressed that mikvahs were so important that if a community had neither synagogue nor mikvah, the mikvah took priority.

In religious circles, mikvahs are normally for married women. In the mikvah ceremony the woman asks God to come to her home and to be part of her marriage. There’s a prayer about her getting a new heart and Spirit and her kavannah (intention) is important. She dunks under three times and her body must be free of any jewelry or foreign objects.  She is supposed to bathe or shower first.

I went to a mikvah and the attendant explained to me that it brings fertility and good luck for my marriage and my two children. I asked her whether single women were allowed to do a mikvah to attract love (since I am a dating expert) and she said that in religious circles single women were allowed to do a mikvah only on Erev Yom Kippur or the night of Yom Kippur, which is coming up. This ritual brought blessings to them then, including possibly attracting marriage. So any single Jewish ladies reading this, consider doing this bathing ritual then! If you are Reform, ask your rabbi if you are allowed to do a mikvah in Rosh Hashana. Here is a list of Mikvehs in NY. You can also Google them for your area if you live elsewhere.

The second water ritual is Tashlick, where you stand by a pool of water to cast away your sins.  In Talmudic literature water represents the Torah. Imagine the water dissolving your past regressions and setting your most loving intention for what is next.

We are all 70% water, so water is our connection to each other and to Source.  When you add prayer to water it is powerful.  Experiments by Dr. Masuru Emoto, author of, The Miracle of Water, reveal that water responds to our thoughts and intentions.  Dr. Emoto found that when you think or say high vibrational words like, ‘Love & Gratitude,’ water takes on beautiful symmetrical shapes in response.

Water magnifies our consciousness, especially when we bathe in it. So, be very mindful when taking your Mikveh or praying during Tashlick.  Let the past wash away after you take responsibility and ask forgiveness, then visualize who you most want to be next.

You are creating a shift in consciousness. During Rosh Hashana there is the blasting of the shafar during day light which is like a spiritual alarm clock, jarring you out of unconsciousness.  It knocks you out of your comfort zone, waking you up to our new intention and aligning your thoughts, feelings and Spirit with that.

These beautiful Judaic rituals allow us to purify and realign with what God wants for us and what we most want for ourselves at the Spiritual level.

And since this is JDate (and I’m a Relationship Expert) I’d be remiss not to mention that this can work your love-life too.  It’s a great time to intentionally do a clean-up (internally or externally) through letting go of past hurt from old relationships partners.  Ask for forgiveness from old dates where you have done wrong.  Allow yourself to forgive their past transgressions. This allows you to move forward in love with an open heart, a lightness of being, great dating karma and a positive perspective. In, The Book of Sacred Baths, (due out May 2016) I have many bathing rituals you can do for dating and improving your love-life.

I wish you a sweet and hopeful new year, full of Love,


Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is a licensed psychologist, dating coach and author of the upcoming, “The Book of Sacred Baths,” published by Llewellyn, “Dating from the Inside Out,” published by Atria Books, and others. She won 15 book awards and her books are translated into five languages. She’s an expert in JDate’s JMag, Eligible Magazine and Digital Romance. She’s been an expert on television shows like the CBS Early Show & the AM Northwest Early Show and a radio guest on the Curtis Sliwa show, Pathways and others. Dr. Sherman was quoted on, USA Weekend, the NY Post, Newsweek,, More,,, Fox Business, Crains, Better Homes & Gardens, Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Glamour, Forbes, Woman’s Day, Metro newspapers, Men’s Health, Seventeen, Men’s Health, New York Magazine, Web MD, Everyday Health, Complete Woman magazines, the Huffington Post and the NY Times. She has a psychotherapy practice in Manhattan and does dating coaching by phone. Learn more at
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