Getting ghosted – when someone disappears without any communication – has become all too common these days. It can be a text message that goes unanswered indefinitely. Maybe it’s a voicemail they seem to have completely ignored. Either way, it’s one of the most frustrating aspects of modern dating.

With the Jewish community being relatively small in most cities, that means there’s a high likelihood that you will run into your ghost eventually. You may want to walk right up to Casper and make some snide remark, but it’s better to take the high road.

So what should you do instead? Here’s a handy step-by-step guide for dealing with your ghost’s immature behavior in an adult way:

  1. Try to completely ignore your ghost’s presence if you can. Don’t look their way, don’t stop, and don’t say hello.
  2. If he or she approaches you, give them a taste of their own medicine by acting like you don’t even know who they are. “Do I know you? You don’t look familiar. Hmmmm.” Then walk away.
  3. Continue with what you’re doing without giving them a second thought. Don’t let that ghost ruin your fun!
  4. Once you’re back at home, call up your new beau or hop on JDate. There are plenty of other (and better) fish in the sea.

Getting ghosted is never easy, but that doesn’t mean it has to be a dating setback. Remember that the ghosting types are in the minority; there are tons of great matches out there who won’t leave you hanging. And now that you know how it feels, make sure that karma is in your favor by never ghosting anyone else!

  1. I can’t agree with that answer. Frankly, unless this is some type of satire, I’m surprised it was even posted. At one point, you say that it is important to take the high road. In the next paragraph, you suggest playing games, ignoring them and then lying.

    How about just saying hello and moving on? That would be taking the high road.

    1. I can see what you’re saying, Brad. My point here is not to waste anymore of your time dwelling on the unknown, particularly the people who were rude enough to ghost you. Saying “Hi!” is innocent enough, until it turns into a conversation and likely leaves you with even more uncertainty. Ghosts are not worth your time or energy. Getting ghosted sucks, plain and simple, but the best thing you can do is accept it and move on and understand that this person did you a favor. And meanwhile, maintain your dignity by not pulling the same move on someone you’re dating.

  2. (Psst: You may want to correct the misused word in your opening paragraph,— unless the word use is intentional.)

    You mean “elicit ( to draw forth) a good first impression”, rather than “illicit”, which means illegal.

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