Finding a healthy relationship takes patience and energy. The best things in life don’t happen overnight. They require hard work and persistence. Follow these 10 tips to help you have the relationship that you deserve.

1.  Clean The Slate

Rid yourself of everything relating to the past. If you’re holding onto pictures or memorabilia from a previous relationship, throw them out. A great relationship can only begin with a fresh start.

2.  Get To Know Yourself

Spend some time with yourself. Think about what makes you unique and special. What are your  hobbies and passions? What do you bring to a relationship? When you know yourself well, you’re ready for a wonderful relationship.

3.  Evaluate Your Appearance

Evaluate your physical attractiveness. Everyone has something fabulous they can offer. Identify your best feature and accentuate it. Create a wardrobe that makes you look and feel great. Wear things that are complimenting.

4.  Be Realistic With Your Expectations

Make sure your expectations are accurate. You should want to meet someone who you can connect with. You should focus on the important things, such as finding a partner who you can see yourself creating a strong, long-lasting relationship with.

5.  Make A List

Write down a list of your goals. What do you want to accomplish in your life? Where do you see yourself in five years? You want to meet someone who’s going to encourage you to fulfill all of your goals and be emotionally supportive.

6.  Realize There Are Wonderful People Everywhere

Having a positive outlook keeps your attitude fresh. When you stay optimistic, you’re increasing your chances of finding a like-minded partner. Realize that there are awesome people everywhere. You just have to be proactive so you can meet them.

7.  Identify What’s Important To You

Familiarize yourself with what’s important to you. Do you want a partner who wants to start a family? Do you like dating someone who enjoys traveling? Do you enjoy meeting people who are active? Having an idea of what matters to you helps you attract the right partner.

8.  Send Off Positive Vibes

What you portray is what you attract. If you feel positive, optimistic, and happy, those are the types of people you will attract. If you’re negative, cynical, and pessimistic, the wrong kind of men and women will be drawn to you.

9.  Do Things You Love

When you do activities that you love, you’re focusing on what’s important to you. Your guard is let down and you’re relaxed. You’re in your element and hopefully, happy! Your chances of meeting someone are increased because you’re sending off positive vibes.

10.  Be Proactive

Dating is a numbers game. The more people you meet, the better chance you have of connecting with someone special. You should get into the mindset that you must be proactive and take advantage of every social opportunity.


Carly Spindel is the Vice President of Janis Spindel Serious Matchmaking Inc. She has seen the matchmaking business firsthand since she was 6 years old. As the daughter of Janis Spindel, Carly has been called mini Janis since she could walk and has learned the inside tricks of the trade from Janis! Carly has been matching her own clients for the past 6 years, and runs Janis’ Express Matchmaking and Junior Matchmaking divisions. You can learn more about Carly and Janis Spindel Serious Matchmaking Inc. at
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