Navigating the many choices that you make on a date can often be like ordering off your favorite menu. From what to wear to what to say, matchmaker Janis Spindel has the recipe for success!

1. Cocktails:

Going to a new restaurant can sometimes be overwhelming. While the fancy cocktails may be enticing, often, it’s best to stick to your go-to drink. Similarly, first dates can be nerve-wracking. You may be tempted to try something you’ve never done before (like wear those rocking thigh-high boots you just bought), but like ordering a new drink, it may backfire. Instead, stick to what you know is best for you. If you’ve been complimented every time you wear your stilettos because it accentuates your thighs, go with that.

2. Appetizers:

The whole point of an appetizer is to whet your appetite in preparation for the main dish. Similarly, your conversation on a first date should be easygoing and light. When done right, the conversation should be just enough to spark your date’s curiosity, without giving everything away. Don’t forget, you still have the rest of the meal to tell him all about your sophomore spring break trip where you ran with the bulls.

3. Main Course:

A good main dish is one that keeps you wanting more with every bite. Don’t spend the entire meal taking about yourself and how great you are. If you want your date to know that you have an awesome personality, then show him. Avoid dominating the conversation by asking him questions. If you don’t want to steer the conversation back to you, ask questions that allow both of you to share things about your life. Humor always works as well.

4. Dessert:

Dessert always ends the meal on a sweet note, and nothing is sweeter than making plans for your next date. If you think your date went well, why not say, “I’d love to do this again soon?” If your date is on Friday night, a simple “Wanna grab lunch next week?” will suffice.