Dear Gems from Jen,

At what point does one introduce their new romance to their son?

Dear Introductions,

You haven’t given me a lot to go on here, but I’ll give it a shot.  How old is your son?  Where is your son’s other parent?  How long have you been dating this person? Are you in a serious committed relationship?   What does your son know about your dating life?

These are just some of the questions you will need to ask yourself before making this decision.  Bringing romantic partners in and out a child’s life can create unnecessary damage to the child.  I always suggest to parents in this situation that before an introduction is made there is only one partner and it is a committed relationship.  If you are serious and monogamous with this other person and they are aware that your son and you are a package deal then my best suggestion is to go ahead and introduce your son to your partner.  Please make sure that your partner is in it for the long haul and your son is aware the new person is not replacing the other parent.


Gems from Jen