It’s very common once you hit your mid 20s to want to get into a serious relationship ASAP. To be honest, it can be very tempting to just settle in order to not be alone. However, settling is never a good idea – ever. At the time, it seems nice to have that person around, but you’ll eventually realize you’re not happy. The problem is that you don’t actually want to be with that person; it’s just the idea of them that’s so appealing to you. So how you can make sure you don’t settle?
Think About The Future
Look, I get it. Being in a relationship is fun, and society can make you feel like you need to be in one by a certain age. And as you get older, it becomes something you might think about more and more. Even if you’re feeling the pressure to find someone, you should really think about who you’re getting into a relationship with. Relationships become more and more real as you progress through your 20s and beyond. It’s not just fun and games like it was in high school and college. At this point, choosing to be in a relationship with someone can have a significant impact on your future, so it’s not something you should take lightly.
Get Out Before You Settle
If the person you’re in a relationship with is not who you really see yourself with long term, and you know in your gut it’s not right, you need to get out of that relationship, and fast. I know it’s easier said than done, but it needs to be done. Look deep inside yourself and find the courage to get out of said relationship. Settling with someone for the sake of being in a relationship will never end up in true, authentic happiness. And being anything other than truly, authentically happy is no way to live.
Make The Most Of Being Single
Being single and “alone” can sound scary, and it’s likely not your ideal scenario. But I promise that it’s much better to be single than to be with the wrong person. Take advantage of being alone. Be selfish. Do things for yourself. Figure out what you really want. Work on being your best self. And before you know it, the right person will come along, and you’ll be so thankful you didn’t settle for the wrong one.
Even if all your friends are in serious relationships, getting engaged or are already married, don’t feel the need to rush into something. Be happy for your friends. Don’t be bitter. Your time will come. You’ll find your person, and your friends will be happy for you when it happens. Go out with different groups of people and put yourself out there. Whatever you do, just don’t settle.
While it might seem like the best thing to do at the time, settling for someone you don’t actually want to be with will only hurt you in the end. You won’t be living your best life. It takes guts to get out of a very comfortable relationship, and while it won’t necessarily be easy to do it, it’ll be worth every hard moment in the end.
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