Sex is often a taboo topic in romantic relationships because it’s often assumed the guy will make the first move in the bedroom and the woman will be more passive. There have long been certain sexual stereotypes regarding gender and sex, but research suggests a shift is occurring! Here are 7 ways that sexuality in romantic relationships is changing.


  1. Men Now Lie To Get Out of Sex

A recent study revealed that 60% of men have told their partner they are too tired to have sex and half have said they weren’t ‘in the mood.’ So, both men and women have been known to come up with reasons to get out of sex.


  1. Cuddling May Be More Important to Men

One study found men cared more about cuddling than women!


  1. Intelligence Matters To Both Men & Women

Women looking for both one-night stands and long-term relationships go for geniuses over dumb jocks, according to a study from Elon University in North Carolina. But, it’s not just women who put brains before beauty. Psychologists at York University say new research suggests men increasingly value intellect and character in a partner over a shapely figure.


  1. Men Fake Orgasms Too

A study at University of Kansas revealed that 30 percent of men faked orgasms. Frequently reported reasons were that an orgasm was unlikely, they wanted sex to end, they wanted to avoid negative consequences, or they wanted to please their partner.


  1. Both Men and Women Go in For the Kiss on the First Date

In a Business Insider Poll, 70% of both men and women went in for a first kiss.


  1. More Women Initiate Sex Now

A study by Shari Dworkin, a medical sociologist at the University of California, found that 72 percent of college-aged men wished their female partners would initiate sex more frequently. And – in 25 percent of relationships – females between the age of 18 and 24 do make the first move. Research on couples has shown that the more one person (male or female) in a long-term relationship tries to jump-start sex, the higher both partners rated their relationship’s satisfaction, stability, and communication.


  1. Rich Women May Have Sex Sooner

In a study conducted by, 5 percent of women with high incomes said it’s OK to sleep with someone on the first day of meeting them. Those women earned between $75,000 and $99,999 a year. Only 1 percent of women earning less than $25,000 annually agreed.


Despite the above studies, many traditional singles still believe that the guy should go in for the first kiss and initiate sex. Do you think that these changes are good?

Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is the award-winning author of ‘Dating from the Inside Out’ and ‘When Mars Women Date.’  A relationship expert and a licensed psychologist/dating coach, she specializes in singles and couples therapy. For more than 20 years, Paulette changed the lives of thousands of clients, and shared insight with millions more through expert commentary on 77WABC radio and over 30 media outlets including MSN, USA Today, The New York Post, The New York Times, Crains, Newsweek,, More, Fox News, Fox Business, Better Homes & Gardens, Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Glamour, Forbes, Woman’s Day, Every Day Health, Metro newspapers, Men’s Health, True Story, Seventeen, Elle and Complete Woman’ magazines and The Huffington Post. She lives and works in Manhattan as a psychotherapist and offers dating coaching by phone.
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  1. Although the above all makes sense, in my opinion there are no rules to dating and sexual relationships. Every date is different and unexpected.

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