JDate is responsible for more Jewish marriages than all other dating sites combined! But we’ve got more than just statistics to back it up. In our “Success Stories” feature, you’ll meet real couples who found love online.
Alyssa & Trevor
How did you meet? What was your first date like? Give us all the details!
When it comes to online dating, I was seasoned. You name it, I tried it. After several years of intermittent online dating and countless (and I mean countless) unsuccessful first, second and third dates, I was ready to call it quits. I had a few weeks left on my JDate subscription and I had vowed to friends and family that I was officially done. There’s only so many bad first dates that one girl can take.
Last June, I sat in Starbucks with my best friend and asked a very important question. How young is too young? Her response: “Let me see him!.” I shared his profile and a big smile appeared on her face. He was handsome, articulate and used proper grammar – all the initial qualities that I’d come to look for. After exchanging a few emails, I became excited. However, I knew better than to get my hopes up. I’d been down this road before. And then it happened; after several days of emailing, he stopped responding. Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday – no emails. And then it came; Monday night I received an email that I’ll never forget.
“Hey Alyssa, I found you on Facebook and it seems as though you are in a relationship. If you ever find yourself single, let me know and I’d love to treat you to that cup of coffee.”
With my heart pounding and my mouth wide open, I replied, “I think there has been some sort of profound misunderstanding. The handsome shirtless guy pictured with me in one of my JDate pictures, my Facebook profile picture and in HIS Facebook profile picture is my best friend who happens to also be trying to find a BOYFRIEND.”
In retrospect having a handsome shirtless guy in your profile picture on Facebook or JDate is not a good idea, particularly if you are trying to find your own boyfriend. Lesson learned. Minutes later, I received a reply email and the rest is history.
I am so grateful that he decided to send that email that night. Had I encountered the same scenario, I certainly wouldn’t have had the courage to do the same. The poor guy thought I was some sort of cheating, unstable dating manic.
In hindsight, his decision to have faith and send that email was one that ultimately has changed both of our lives. We now recount that story with our families and laugh. It turns out his brother encouraged him to reach out one more time. I’ll be indebted to him forever. I found my match, the guy I didn’t believe could exist. He’s my teammate and my best friend and next October, he will become my husband.
Describe the moment you knew it was true love!
After spending time with each others families, we soon came to realize that the relationship had significant potential. Amidst months in different states and a considerable commute, things felt effortless. From the beginning, the relationship just felt right.
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Alyssa, would you have gone for Trevor if he wasn’t handsome, and Trevor, would you have gone for Alyssa if she was not attractive?