You made it! Finally, the long process of “unmarrying” is done, and you’re officially divorced. You might feel sad, or you might feel incredibly relieved and happy. Once the judge says it’s official, it’s normal to have so many conflicting feelings. But no matter where you are emotionally, take some time to celebrate getting through such a traumatic and stressful life event. Here are a few ideas to get you started.
1. Sweat It Out
Invest some money in your mind and body by hiring a trainer. I call it “getting your divorce body.” Not only will you start to look better, but also you’ll start to feel better and focused – something you need when forming a new life after divorce.
2. Have a Party
People spend beaucoup bucks on weddings and engagement parties. Why not celebrate a fresh new start with a divorce party? Some people who have never been divorced say it’s disrespectful to marriage, but I disagree. Making the brave call to end a marriage that is not healthy is the hardest thing I have ever done, minus being a single parent. Turning your life around takes chutzpah. Celebrate that!
3. Take a Vacation
If you can afford one, take a vacation. Based on your budget, make the call to get away by yourself to decompress, even if it’s just to book a local hotel for a night or two to leave someone else to cook and clean for a bit.
4. See a Therapist
If you weren’t during the divorce process, take the time to see a therapist now. Discover who you are now that the end is here and a new beginning has started. Learn what made you marry the wrong person, find out what you need in a new partner and in yourself, and make the choice to date with a new perspective. You don’t want to repeat the same love mistakes again.
Volunteering for a cause is an excellent post-divorce activity. When you’re still feeling unsure about the future and a little dazed from everything that happened, volunteering can provide purpose, perspective and gratitude.
Get involved in your local synagogue and give back to the Jewish community. Have you taken time to be thankful for the blessings and lessons you gained from this divorce? Take the time to invest in yourself spiritually after your divorce is final.
7. Family Time
If you divorced with kids, develop new family rituals you can share with them and with your extended family. Divorce typically changes the time you have with your kids, so try to make new celebrations, traditions and hobbies together. Focus on how you can celebrate your new normal as a fresh start for everyone.
8. Hobby Time
Take the time to invest and explore in a new hobby you’ve been dying to try. Approach your divorce as a time to celebrate becoming a new you – learning new things and discovering things about you that you never knew before.
There will be highs and lows in a days, weeks and months after a divorce, but you can start this new stage of life on the right foot by taking the opportunity to try some of these celebratory activities.
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